It is quite easy for people to be stuck in their own image of themselves... All of us - whatever be our IQ levels - are equally guilty of this. Sometimes we're close to incredibly foolish... Sometimes we're closeby to the remote truth. How does one try to be in the vicinity of truth and not illusion?
Somehow over the last 3-4 days - have kind of lived thru this internal struggle across myriad life situations. Some intensely personal, some kind of professional.
From someone who believes their calibre and recognition dont match to someone who uses self-perception as an insurmountable wall against potential emotional hurt.
Life threw up events and situations which still are beyond me to understand - how the f^*% did i get caught in them? Esp since have spent most of my life avoiding getting caught in situations which make me feel helpless like this. (Helpless - as in situations not under my control.)
Let's take for example the scenario where someone's basic abilities as a professional were under the scanner since they seemed to be performing under par. Self - perception told the person that not only shd he/she be considered good - but maybe even get a promotion faster than others!! How do u explain to such a person that they need to maybe shift focus from self-perception to perception management externally? That what they 'mean to do' has no bearing whatsoever on what 'needs to be done'...
Or when someone says 'i am emotionally bankrupt' - does it really mean that the person is so self-aware that he/she is confident of making this statement? Or is it a farcical statement which allows them to walk away from any kind of emotional ties - maybe in the hope that they wont feel guilty? After all - i believe that anyone who can truly reach this combination of self-awareness and honesty most probably is a very scared individual... And more than protecting others from crossing the boundaries is him/herself sitting inside those self-created fences! But yes it can even be a scenario where it's a well meaning but selfish person - who is after an objective and wants to leave the scene without carrying any aftermath.
Or yet another scenario where the fear of the unknown keeps someone completely embedded in the familiar -- with the firm belief that they 'know what they're doing' - ALL THE BLOODY TIME! The fear of being 'caught out' is enough to keep them stuck in their own perceptual maps.
Had read somewhere long time back - that drugs are consumed because they provide hallucinating perceptions. (the only reason for reference to reading is becoz havent had the opportunity to do it myself!!) For some the reality is so grim, they hallucinate abt happy times.. And some others do it because they're not 'happy enuf'.
Maybe what we all really need is some other substance to remove these self-induced hallucinations? Though the world is likely to become MUCH less an interesting place... But who knows... Maybe ... Just maybe there will be a few more happy people in the world.
Amen to that!!!
Somehow over the last 3-4 days - have kind of lived thru this internal struggle across myriad life situations. Some intensely personal, some kind of professional.
From someone who believes their calibre and recognition dont match to someone who uses self-perception as an insurmountable wall against potential emotional hurt.
Life threw up events and situations which still are beyond me to understand - how the f^*% did i get caught in them? Esp since have spent most of my life avoiding getting caught in situations which make me feel helpless like this. (Helpless - as in situations not under my control.)
Let's take for example the scenario where someone's basic abilities as a professional were under the scanner since they seemed to be performing under par. Self - perception told the person that not only shd he/she be considered good - but maybe even get a promotion faster than others!! How do u explain to such a person that they need to maybe shift focus from self-perception to perception management externally? That what they 'mean to do' has no bearing whatsoever on what 'needs to be done'...
Or when someone says 'i am emotionally bankrupt' - does it really mean that the person is so self-aware that he/she is confident of making this statement? Or is it a farcical statement which allows them to walk away from any kind of emotional ties - maybe in the hope that they wont feel guilty? After all - i believe that anyone who can truly reach this combination of self-awareness and honesty most probably is a very scared individual... And more than protecting others from crossing the boundaries is him/herself sitting inside those self-created fences! But yes it can even be a scenario where it's a well meaning but selfish person - who is after an objective and wants to leave the scene without carrying any aftermath.
Or yet another scenario where the fear of the unknown keeps someone completely embedded in the familiar -- with the firm belief that they 'know what they're doing' - ALL THE BLOODY TIME! The fear of being 'caught out' is enough to keep them stuck in their own perceptual maps.
Had read somewhere long time back - that drugs are consumed because they provide hallucinating perceptions. (the only reason for reference to reading is becoz havent had the opportunity to do it myself!!) For some the reality is so grim, they hallucinate abt happy times.. And some others do it because they're not 'happy enuf'.
Maybe what we all really need is some other substance to remove these self-induced hallucinations? Though the world is likely to become MUCH less an interesting place... But who knows... Maybe ... Just maybe there will be a few more happy people in the world.
Amen to that!!!
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