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If Only's...

Isn't everyone's life incomplete without at least a few of these 'If Only's...'? :-) life would be absolutely stupidly boring if we didnt have those moments of reflection where we could go 'if only...' followed with a deep deep heartfelt sigh!!

To me having these moments reassure me - tell me that am not just human, but also a person capable of learning from my past...

If Only i had not given up easily on the first job offer i got.. just because my family didnt want me to stay away alone...

If Only I had persisted and learnt singing the way i wanted to... just because i was too lazy to do the bus trips to mandi house...

If only i had learnt swimming early enuf.. i wud have enjoyed australia that much more...

If only i hadnt made an ego issue out of a simple fight with a friend... and instead gone back and apologized...

If Only the guy i had a huge crush on - reciprocated my feelings... ;-)

and so on and so forth... am sure its easy enuf to guess that the list would be endless...

But i think for me the biggest learning of them all has been that its not just a reassuring phrase - it really does work in life - WHAT HAPPENS IS FOR THE BEST!

At every step of life, the direction life takes is one of a few possibilities before us... we choose the directions ourselves and yet sometimes like to believe that we didnt really have a choice!
Finding happiness in each and every direction that life has taken is what i believe called 'Living it up'!

:-)

Comments

Richa said…
How true!!! Very apt - especially for all the silly directions that life takes :)
April 2, 2009 at 4:18 AM
Akshay Hiremath said…
I have a bunch of big if only's.

If only I had not put up with racism back in my school and actually complained to my school authorities, instead of taking it silently.

If only I had not been overly considerate and had been proactive in telling a woman I loved I was seriously committed to her when I had the chance.

If only I had taken a few chances I had and done stuff that I really wanted to when I had a chance, instead of being stupidly propah.

I would perhaps have been a more confident, a happier man!

But as my Mom jokingly says, "what what happens, that that happens". Each situation resulted in a decision that moulded the course of my life to some extent or the other. And some of these missed opportunities ended up givinf me some of the strengths I possess. So there is always a silver lining!

Thus while there are some regrets, I have learned for the future and there's no wallowing!
April 2, 2009 at 10:40 PM
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