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Life Experiences are the best teachers!

Having grown up on a liberal dose of Mills & Boons and eternal love stories, its been a life-long grudge with God / Fate / Destiny of mine that that’s been the one thing which always eluded me – Butterflies in my tummy and stars in my eyes kind of love.

I remember when I was in 8th grade – I won an extempore speech contest where the topic given to me as I stepped onto the stage was ‘Happiness’. I had about 30 seconds to gather my thoughts and then make a 2 minute long speech on the topic. I don’t really remember what I spoke exactly – except for 2 things. 1). I finished in 1.30 minutes. 2). I finished with a quote I remembered on happiness – Happiness is like a butterfly – runs away from you the more you chase it. But if you were to sit quietly and turn your attention elsewhere, you might just find it coming on its own and sitting on your shoulder.

(I think even I would have given myself the award for this!! )

But anyways – that’s what Romance became for me. I think I chased it so much that it kept eluding me. Not sure if it is yet sitting on my shoulder – but I have definitely turned my attention away from it. The big benefit of this has not been that I managed to find it finally – but that I could finally recognize and register what all I was ignoring in my quest for just this one thing.

Most of the people who know me today – I think – would know that I got married and divorced fairly young and then was single for a pretty long time. In my late 30’s – I restarted this part of life. Marriage and then a kid soon. Its now almost a decade of this way of life as well.

What I realized soon enough was that my life journey, while not very unique, was fairly different from the average one. Given the gift of the gab from an early age (as you would have read above) and a really strong belief in learning from experiences (mine or others) – I am now planning to put down some of my own relationship observations. The only intention here is that sometimes when the world seems too biased against us, if you read about someone else having gone through similar scenario – it lifts a weight of being alone from your shoulders. Here’s to some weight-lifting of the soul…

I will try and address some of the key aspects of relationships which I feel I have reasonable amount of either experience or opinion or both on! So each of these will be a stand-alone read as well as a series if you get interested enough to read more.

To give a preview of the topics i want to cover...

- When to walk away.. when is it that you know that the relationship wont work..

- Making the 2nd innings work..

- Dealing with the 'Footloose and fancy free divorcee' tag

- Why it matters to have a good FQ - financial quotient

Hopefully will get feedback to include more topics as i go along. Will not make any promises of any kind of timelines... but i do promise that i am happy to chat on any of these or other relationship oriented topics. I am not in any way a trained expert - never will i claim to be one - but i do have more than 20 years of experience of having the rug pulled from under my feet! If that counts.. do read on and reach out :)

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