Skip to main content

Mothers' Day....

This year am paying special attention to the Mothers' Day posts which have already started making an appearance on FB... I guess with R being so small right now, I still am far from really understanding the hoopla around it. And this coming from someone who loves any excuse to make a special day out of an ordinary one! Also as always... am still identifying more with the child than the mother in any mom-child pics I see!!! :)

But anyways... made me think yet again of the huge upheaval motherhood causes in a woman's life...
physically, mentally, emotionally AND intellectually!!!! I remember the early weeks - I used to starve for any adult company and ANY conversation topic beyond potty and feeding! Thankfully its gotten better with a bit of work, but no where close still to being on ur feet and in the thick of action. While mommyhood gives a certain kind of high for sure (especially when R's eyes light up and he gives a big smile on seeing me!), but it doesn't come close to going up on stage and receiving some award for work done by you... Maybe this will change once he starts responding and interacting on his own with greater intellectual exchanges than just 'cheekuuuuu' :)

Anyways - back to the upheaval bit... its been more than a year now since the body was overtaken by this entire baby-phase... A year since I felt that anything I did about my body was in my control. A year since it was kind of possible to pretend being somewhat fashionable and stylish was still in my hands. A year since I could dream of getting into some of the 'cool' clothes I owned. And looks like its still sometime away when I can possibly feel like that again...

However one of the strangest impacts I have felt with this mommyhood in my life has been in the realm of friendships... having had a baby much later in life compared to most of my friends, its been a strange journey for sure. Some friends have automatically assumed a cocky state of interaction - somewhat like a 'I know more than you about this'... Some have probably distanced themselves assuming I 'wont have time for normal things now'.... Only a very few have proactively reached out and offered a sane bit of time-out.
Single friends who I guess I was spending most of time till recently, have almost disappeared! Friends with older kids interact proactively with mostly sympathy - whether I want it or not is not the point.
Friends with younger kids are actually the easiest to deal with - recent experiences make them equally vulnerable I guess. No wonder that most moms will tell great stories of bonding with their kids' friends' moms... At least now I understand one social reality...

Financially I've always been a prudent investor... but now have got an extra worry to provide for... i'll retire before my kid starts earning!! :) Wonder if there are articles written on this phenomena yet...

So all in all... Mommyhood - I am yet to understand you completely... Maybe that's when this hoopla will make some more sense to me... Are you truly the big blessing so much has poetry has been written about... Do most moms go through this wonder-what-the-big-deal-is or maybe its just me????

:)

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Reading is what saved me…

  Its funny to say or hear this but its true. In my life, books happened very early on in life and I got totally hooked to the escape they offered. Given our financial constraints growing up, books were a cheap way to get those kicks in life. A nearby renting library with an endless supply of M&Bs and Georgette Heyer’s and other similar ‘fluffy’ fiction – made it all super easy. I devoured books from the school library, shamelessly borrowed (and returned) books from friends and neighbors and never shied away from being seen with a book at the every juncture. Its truly a wonder that i didn' t get glasses at that stage in life! Books saved me from the stress that financial constraints bring to a child’s mind. Books saved me from the boredom that brings on negative thinking. Books told me that having and expressing emotions were totally fine – I could shed copious tears while reading without any fear of judgement. I could laugh out loud at a smart and sassy scene. Instead they...
Post a Comment
Read more

Reunions or Reincarnation: Rediscovering the Lost Self

There’s something almost mystical about reunions. Not the regular catch-ups over dinner, but those epic, trip-based gatherings where classmates convene after decades, as if time were just a decorative illusion. In the past few years, with the slow but steady drumbeat of friends turning fifty, I’ve been both witness and participant in adventures that begin with nervous anticipation and end in riotous laughter—and a kind of rebirth that no ordinary weekend could bring. At first glance, reunions seem to promise little more than nostalgia, some bad dancing, and a few retellings of embarrassing teenage moments. But somewhere between boarding passes and late-night confessions, something extraordinary unfolds. Time collapses. The cracks and scars of the intervening years fade into the background, replaced by a wave of pure, unfiltered joy—like meeting long-lost parts of ourselves we never realized had gone missing. For those fleeting days, we become the version of ourselves that existed befo...
Post a Comment
Read more

I miss you R...

 Is it ok to miss yourself sometimes?  I miss you R… I miss your innocence The belief that the world was a happy place That love was there all around All we need to do is to reach out. Just an honest open attempt And life will reward you If you worked long and hard It will even speak up for you I liked that about you You knew how to move on You knew that forgiving was the only way Not forgetting necessarily - but definitely letting go I liked how you gave it your all When you set your mind to it How you put the scared kid inside you to bed every night With a promise that the next day would be better The kid who cried in her pillow for years Just because she felt lonely and unloved You told her you were there to hold her hand Whatever else life throws at her, you wouldn’t leave her alone But now that child is overwhelmed  The loneliness is threatening to take it all What can she do to keep it at bay With the weight of responsibilities taking their toll So while I think of ...
Post a Comment
Read more