Rambling on... again..

With the Mother's Day weekend coming up and all the commercial promotions starting off early, I was thinking on a bit of a tangent... or maybe not as tangential as I think. It struck me how tomes are being written about the greatness of being a mother and how it completes a woman's life - and yes, some people do stop and mention the dads too. But little gets written or maybe discussed about how the relationship between two 'individual' people in a marriage evolves post parenthood. Everyone I think goes through the older-generations' promotion of parenthood about how it 'evolves' the relationship between them and that parenthood makes you closer than before to your partner. Naturally becoming attuned to the dynamics of families - vs just couples - I started closely observing what I thought were social patterns which maybe I could use someday to define the kind of roles and relationships I wanted to emulate in my life.  I saw parents around me who were ...

One of the things I used to be totally proud of almost all my working life - actually all of it - was that I gave my work my total sincerity, passion and enthusiasm. However I did reach a point when I decided to take a break from it for a while - without the excuse of a child if I may add. But even then the real reason to take such a step was the realisation that my 'heart wasn't in it' totally. And my supportive bosses understood and respected it. I did have the excuse of saying - well I am getting married - but even to my own ears it rang false, as we had a very simple wedding and had already set up home together. So there really wasn't much I was supposed to do - except show up at my wedding and have a chilled out time. But I decided a break was what I needed - not quit working. Just take a few moments to breathe and relax and maybe spend time doing things I wanted to do - which was essentially sleep, eat, meet friends and be a lazy potato in general :) And then fi...