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Turning Points...

There's so much that goes on behind the scenes in everyone's lives... recently came face-toface with this reality yet again in sessions which were meant to encourage people to see the 'person' behind their colleagues... One of the few sessions that i think gave something new to think about to me at least.

and what i got out of it was not that there's a story behind everyone - thats something i think i realized pretty much years ago... but what exactly do i do with the information that i have now about all these people!!!

how is it that one is supposed to be with people after knowing these facts?
does compassion start over-whelming the neutral attitude one has while dealing with colleagues?
the fact that such intimate details about self have been shared with others - whats the best course forward - forget that you ever heard it? or maybe sometime actually broach the topic again? i mean - how else is one supposed to build on the ties these sessions are meant to create?
do others even think about all these vague thoughts i have??

does it even matter???

mmmm...

Comments

another brick in the wall said…
My view is the only way forward is to see if you changed your view about someone after such an exercise. Perhaps the stories should never come back to you when you work with them. Its not being "neutral" but being detached. The best case scenario outcome of such exercises is perhaps you can add (at least)one more person to your list of "People with whom you need to be less detached about". Who knows, this one more person may become a close friend some time down the line!
July 21, 2008 at 7:11 AM
Sudhām said…
sometimes you move on knowing the other persons agony..at other times you would want to do something to show that you care. In my opinion the person who shares the tale knows deep within who really "heard" him or her and therefrom the relationship moves..
July 27, 2008 at 12:11 PM
Akshay Hiremath said…
There are a lot of colleagues with whom we just have a professional relationship and we seldom go beyond pleasantries. We tend to almost look at them as "machines" (I am exaggerating to make the point) and we can possibly be a bit inconsiderate when it comes to our demands from them. However, after a round of sharing like what we had, these "machines" suddenly turn into "people". Suddenly, the entire perspective changes, and we start understanding why they are the way they are, why they behave the way they do etc etc. The "turning points" can open up a window of opportunity - and colleagues can go from being "machines" to "people" and in some cases, even "frinds". Therein lies the beauty of such sessions!
July 29, 2008 at 11:03 PM
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